There was an event like this at the Marilyn Night Club, and let’s face it, it fits perfectly with the mood of May. After all, spring is the season when most people fall in love, at least those who are open to it. And those looking for something else often find a new partner during this time. English even has a great word for casual, undefined relationships: situationship.
The term situationship comes from the word “situation” and “relationship,” and it basically refers to a romantic connection without commitment. You could say it’s just sex, but that wouldn’t be entirely true either, because these relationships can involve spending time together, going out, and doing things as a pair. What’s not included is meeting each other’s family or friends. Both people in a situationship consider themselves single. They don’t introduce each other to anyone.
This perfectly describes what I’ve been craving for years. And the best part is that more and more women are realizing the benefits of this kind of relationship. Maybe it has to do with the fact that I’m over fifty now, and most women my age have already been through every kind of relationship, one or more divorces, and have likely built stable, fulfilling lives. Into that life, work, kids, exercise, socializing, and daily errands, there’s simply no room for a full-on relationship. There’s not enough time or energy. A situationship fits perfectly into such a well-functioning routine. No commitment, no expectations, no exclusivity. It’s basically like a friendship, with benefits. Of course, it can happen that one person starts wanting more. At that point, it either becomes a relationship or it ends. Usually, it ends. You might say that’s sad, but honestly, it’s not. A breakup like that hurts way less than the end of a real relationship, because everything is clear from the start.
But let’s get back to the Celebrating Love event at the Marilyn Night Club. What made it interesting was that couples showed up too. I’m always impressed when a relationship is open enough for a joint trip to a strip club. I think couples like that are cool and open-minded. I’ve seen a lot of things since I started going out at night, but I still get surprised sometimes. Let me tell you a story from about ten years ago.
Here’s what happened: a couple came in, the woman was a bit older than the guy, but you could tell they had been together for a while. You can just sense that from a couple at first glance. It was also obvious that this was their first time doing something like this together. From the very beginning, the guy was drooling over the dancers, but he politely offered the woman a seat at the bar, ordered them drinks, and watched the pole dance show. Table dances were going on at two tables, and he was eyeing those too. The woman looked around the bar with boredom and mostly watched what her guy was watching. From the first minute, it was clear this wasn’t going to end well. They didn’t seem like an open-minded couple at all. You could see that both felt awkward, the man because his partner was there, and the woman simply because she had to be there. I’m guessing it wasn’t her idea to go out on a date like this.
They kept ordering drinks, which slightly eased the tension between them.
Several dancers came over to chat with them, and they loosened up a bit during those moments. Then another couple arrived, apparently expected, and they all greeted each other and sat down at a table. The second couple seemed much more relaxed. Barely ten minutes after arriving, the woman ordered a table dance for her guy. Encouraged by this, the first woman also ordered one for her partner. It was like the two women were trying to outdo each other, but the smile on the first woman’s face wasn’t genuine. The second woman, on the other hand, was clearly enjoying herself, chatting with dancers and bartenders, dancing, having a great time.
She had a long conversation with two of the dancers at the bar, which could only mean one thing: she was interested in a private dance in one of the back rooms. I really like women like her, who take full advantage of everything a club has to offer. She went back to the table and shared the idea with the group. The guys’ faces immediately lit up, but you could see that the other woman had had enough. She didn’t even try to hide her emotions anymore, she jumped up from the table, slapped her partner across the face, and stormed out of the bar. Did her guy run after her? Well, yes. About half an hour later, after the private dance was over.
So, what’s the moral of the story? Well, a strip club isn’t the right date night for every couple. Still, the rest of the guests- including me -thoroughly enjoyed the unexpected drama.
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